That title should be sung “Fiddler on the Roof” style…
Ever notice how transitions (both with yourself and with your kids) are really tough? I was talking with a friend a while back about some behavior issues she was having with her kids. After trading war, er, I mean parenting stories we both realized that the majority of our challenges lay in transitions.It’s actually “a thing” with kids who have sensory issues (of which I have one-if I don’t include myself ; )
S’s Occupational Therapist talked with us about them-although I have to say this whole transitioning thing certainly shows no mercy-we’re all victims! More specificity you say?
- Vacation to School
- School to Home
- Grandparents to Parents
- Pjs to “Clothes-clean-enough-to-be-seen-by-non-family-members”
- Park/playground to Car, Stroller-anything that says “We are leaving now”
- Having a Day off From Children to Children Filling Every Quiet Space You Just Had
- Date Night to Putting Kids to Bed After the Babysitter you Paid to Put Your Children to Sleep did not Actually get Them to Sleep Before you got Home (feel free to grumble with me on this one : )
- Looong Day of Work to Loooong Night Making Dinner, Managing Other Tired People, Cleaning Up After Them
You get the idea.
So what do we do about these things? Endure? Dig in and find loads of patience? Well, yes-that’s what I do. I also yell, beg, remind others around me of their selfishness and make idle threats of never ever doing anything fun ever again. And, when I’m on my A-game I try to (these next ones will be in list form as to highlight what would be the best to do-notice how the other not so great things to do I’ve left tucked in between the lines-so if you are skimming this very long post you won’t see that part ; )
- Play nice music or an audio book so no one talks to each other while transitioning
- Speak in a calm voice (duh, right? Ha! Not so fast…SO much easier said/typed than done!)
- Play a game
- Be prepared in advance so rushing is not required during transitioning (i.e. lunches packed, pre-recorded calm voice ready to go…stuff like that)
- Have a list (pictures for youngers) of things required during transitioning so as to avoid repetitive phrases (i.e. how many times do I have to tell you to get your coat! Of course the calm voice is always used here)
- A hose. (I like this one the best for transitioning from grandparents to parents. This has nothing to do with the quality of grand-parenting and everything to do with the unavoidable side effects of generational transitions. Hosing off the children seems to wipe away any idea that the children may have of continuing the ability to get candy, movies and anything else they want with a cutsie voice.)
What else??? This is where YOU get to chime in. Really. I would love to know how you and your loved ones handle transitions.
It’s warming up here on the farm!